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Self-Help · Spiritual · Relationships
Love Isn’t Love
88 Ways to Love Yourself and Others
Most of us were taught what love looks like. This book asks whether we were taught correctly.
Available June 28, 2025
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About the Book
You were taught that love is patient, love is kind, love is unconditional. You were taught by people who were also taught — and somewhere in that chain, something got lost.
Love Isn’t Love is not a book about what love should be. It is 88 entries, each one a different lens on what love actually is — the kind you give yourself, the kind you give others, and the uncomfortable space between the two.
Some entries will feel like a hand on your shoulder. Some will feel like a mirror held too close. All of them are true.
What’s Inside
01
The honest difference between loving someone and needing them — and why most of us confuse the two every day.
02
Why self-love isn’t selfishness, and why the people who told you otherwise may have needed you to believe that.
03
The 88 forms love actually takes — across relationships, grief, boundaries, bodies, identity, and silence.
04
A reckoning with every version of love you were handed — and permission to put some of them down for good.
A Free Taste — Three Entries from the 88
Entry 01
Love is not a feeling. It’s a decision you make again every morning.
The feeling comes and goes. The weather changes. What remains — what has always remained — is the choice. If you’ve been waiting to feel love before you act on it, you’ve been waiting in the wrong order.
Entry 12
Loving yourself first is not a metaphor. It is literally the only place to start.
You cannot give away what you don’t have. You cannot love someone into wholeness if you are still trying to find your own pieces. This is not selfishness. This is math.
Entry 33
Sometimes love looks like saying no.
No to the version of you they needed you to be. No to the relationship that required your silence. No to the room where love was only available under certain conditions. No is a complete sentence. It is also, sometimes, an act of love.
Love Isn’t Love — Available June 28
88 entries. Each one a different truth about love.
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